Thursday, March 11, 2010
How Michelle Duggar and I are Alike
If you have no children or only 1… Society’s reason:
There’s something physically or mentally wrong with the woman. Why else would you not have 2 or 3 babies? Not long ago while visiting my hometown a family friend asked me, “Anne, when are you going to have another baby?” I answered, dripping with sarcasm (as usual), "Probably 9 months after I conceived." She couldn’t believe I thought that an inappropriate question.
If you can’t have or don’t want children people always want to know the details. Perhaps we should all wear signs or letters; like the scarlet letter, so othesr won’t have to ask our status on such issues. People will delve into these private matters as if it’s their right to know. We’ll ask people when they will have a baby, but no one asks, “Why aren’t you going to get busy and get your nose done already?”
Only children are supposed to be coddled, spoiled and behave like peers to their parents. Of my friends and acquaintances, I know many only children who are lovely and gracious. Conversely, I know many jerks who come from the heralded two or three child homes.
If you have 4 children… Society’s reason:
You’re obviously trying for a boy or a girl. Perhaps symmetry is important and you need 2 boys and 2 girls.
Here’s where it gets interesting. You’re either trying for that elusive boy or girl, you are rich, or you might have a religious conviction that encourages a large family and/or discourages birth control.
You definitely have a religious conviction. You might even be part of the “quiverfull movement.” http://www.britannica.com/bps/additionalcontent/18/23069240/The-Quiverfull-Conviction .
7 or more children
Either you’re trying to be the next Von Trapp family or you’re just nuts...
Leaving it completely up to God
Mrs. Duggar has said on her show that she leaves the number of children she has, “completely up to God. What does that even mean???? I’m no theologian or Biblical Scholar, but I’m certain there has been only one birth that was left “completely up to God.” As a woman of faith I try to put things in God’s hands. We (Mrs. D. and I) might even have similar views on this. Maybe we’re both putting things in God’s hands and making choices and decisions based upon our interpretation of heavenly wisdom.
I have friends who have become mothers in every conceivable (pun intended) fashion. Those who received fertility treatments and those who’ve adopted give credit to God not doctors and attorneys.
As for me…
There has been no decision made on the size of our family. Not sure when the final verdict will come down on this. Perhaps my quiver is just slow to fill or is already filled to overflowing.